New Year’s Resolutions

Obligatory New Year’s Resolutions post? Sure, why not?


You’ve probably read them all. Why resolutions work. Why they don’t. Why you should make them. Why you shouldn’t waste your time with them. To be quite honest, I don’t know what else there is to say about New Year’s resolutions.


Everyone has one thing they know they should do when it comes to something like a New Year’s resolution.


But, they never end up doing it because they take the easy way out. They look at what most people do and follow suit. They never really ask themselves what it is they need or want.


It’s more along the lines of, what do I think I’m supposed to need or want?


And this, in my estimation, seems to be where most resolutions fall short. They never really come from deep within. They come from the surface because that’s where most of us are comfortable playing, which is understandable.


But, as is the theme of most of this blog, we do have the option to at least try and choose better and shoot for more than we sometimes think we deserve.


So, let’s see if we can dig a little deeper into New Year’s resolutions.



There’s a scene in the new Star Wars movie in which the female lead is sent to find the legendary Luke Skywalker. Her mission is to learn the secrets of the Jedi so that she and Luke can help save the galaxy.


Except Luke initially refuses to train her. She persists until Luke finally asks why she was there in the first place.


She responds with the surface response, (EXACT QUOTE SPOILER ALERT)  “The Colonel ordered me to find you blah blah… etc.”


Then Luke steps into the light as if to make his point more clear and asks the same question, “Why are YOU here?”

Why her specifically? There and now to do that one task? Why? What has driven here there?



Walt Disney Studios
Walt Disney Studios



Usually, we make our resolutions based on some goal we would like to achieve. Sometimes they are very quantitative like, “lose 20 pounds.” Sometimes they can be a little vaguer, “be happier.”


Goals like these seem to be the standard operating procedure and are great places to start. We need to have some picture in mind of where we want to go.


Here’s where we can add a little twist. While you go about your endeavor, make it part of the resolution to keep asking yourself, “why?”


I’m not saying that people don’t have reasons for what they want to achieve, they have to. That’s the basis for even setting a goal in the first place. I’m just saying that the original reason may not be the actual reason. At least, not all the time.


Say you want to lose those 20 pounds. Great. Why?


Well, because I’m overweight and my doctor told me to I need to start losing some weight. Perfect. Why?


Well, because I have not really been paying attention to what I’ve been eating for the past few years. Brilliant. Why?


I mean. I dunno. I wasn’t as active, so I wasn’t really paying attention to my body that much, I guess….




Okay, so you see how this can keep going right?


On the surface, our resolution came from a health recommendation made by our doctor.

But, if we can reflect and get a few layers deeper by asking such a simple (but often hard to answer) question, we can give our goal more depth and more reason to stick to it.



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